Funerals are a difficult time for anyone, especially the bereaved. When a loved one dies, friends and family rush to offer help. Unfortunately, many people who are mourning refuse offers of help when they are overwhelmed with grief. These same people end up doing far more work than they need to during the funeral process. If you are experiencing a loss and planning a funeral, here are some ideas for ways you can use your friends’ and family’s offers to help:
Take someone with you to the funeral home
Planning a funeral is an emotionally stressful time. Dealing with the arrangements can be confusing for anyone, especially someone who is dealing with grief. If a friend or family member offers to help you, why not have them come with you to all the meetings at the funeral home? Having a fresh set of eyes to look over paperwork will make it easier for you to plan the peaceful transition of your loved one.
Use a friend to coordinate food
People bring food in times of loss. For many people, dealing with food delivered after the loss of a loved one can cause more stress than comfort. If you have a willing friend or loved one, why not use them to coordinate the food deliveries? They can be responsible for putting the food away in the refrigerator or freezer and can also write thank you notes for you. As an added help, if you have any food allergies or sensitivities, your helpful friend can inform people who would like to bring food.
Floral arrangement coordinator
After a funeral, there are usually many bouquets of flowers to be dealt with. Enlist a friend to make sure that all the flowers make it home (or get donated to an appropriate charity or church). Your friend or family member can also be in charge of all the thank you notes.
Planning a funeral includes many overwhelming details, especially because you’re also processing your grief. However, with the help of friends and family, you can get through this troubling time. Do not turn away offers of help; have your friends and family do any number of small tasks to help make this time easier for you.